Dating a single man with kids
When you’re dating me, those experiences are few and far between.While our coupled friends are planning to run a marathon together, I’m still trying to find a babysitter for our date next week. But I have a guard up to protect not one, but two people.Effort = Planning in advance, which means I feel like you respect my time. Sharing hobbies and traveling together are important aspects in evolving relationships.They help us grow together, experience things, and even help determine our compatibility.An honest conversation about this should minimize the chances of you making a surprise cameo on a VH1 reality show. Should a man without kids hesitate to date a woman with kids?
Sometimes I feel pangs of jealousy when I see conventional families with a mother and a father. I want to be with someone who makes me feel alive and makes my time worthwhile. It means that we have to make our time together a priority. I do not have the luxury of dropping what I’m doing and heading out.
But while the relationship with the father of the woman’s child should not dictate your relationship, their relationship –- whether good or bad –- will play a role in your lives.
It’s important to know what you are getting yourself into.
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But if you take away who we are as people, what remains is our differing positions in life; I’m a single mother and he’s a childless dude.