I am dating my ex wife
She doesn’t work, and she collects disability from the government and spousal support and child support from Adam.
She attaches herself to every ailment for which she can find a symptom, and is on all kinds of medication.
If you can begin to really accept and ultimately embrace the reality that his kids come first without taking it personally, then you and Adam can sit down and figure out what can be done to improve the situation with their mother.
I try hard not to feel like a victim in all of this because I understand that it’s my choice to be with him, but I can’t help feeling robbed of something that should be mine. Dear Ginger, Although Adam’s ex-wife doesn’t seem to be handling things well—and I can imagine how disruptive her texts are—this is also an issue between you and Adam, and there are several ways to make this situation work better.
Some of them are practical, which I’ll get to in a minute.
Dear Therapist, I’ve been dating Adam for two and a half years.
I’m 33 and childless, and he’s 48, divorced, and the father of three kids.