Intimidating things to say
You Are a Nobody -- But You Already Knew That, Right?
A bully on the playground in fifth grade would have said "I'll get my big brother to beat you up!
Although it is seen as a negative quality in many interpersonal interactions, it can be helpful in sports, business, and other competitive environments.
Learning to be intimidating can also help you avoid being intimidated by others.
I call it Weenie Behavior, and it's what you see when a person is afraid and deals with his or her fear by putting down, boxing in and trying to squash other people. Weenies enact and enforce the stupid rules and policies that I write about all the time. Rules reinforce the fear of new thinking or stepping outside the lines that fearless people do naturally. A new idea might threaten a weenie's place in the world.
That's why you can easily throw a weenie into an extreme fear state just by being yourself, telling a joke, having a good idea or being someone that seems to know what you're doing. You will hear people say "You don't know much about business, do you?
She received her MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011.
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This is a team effort, to be sure." Everyone Hates You, Just So You Know If you really get a workplace bully into a panic state, you will know. Their limbic system is in full fight or flight mode, and they've decided to fight by calling you awful names, putting you down, and telling you that everyone from the CEO to the cafeteria lunch lady hates your guts.
Weenies hate for anyone competent to show up in their domain. " or "So, have you ever dealt with a Professional Recruiter before? " They will tell you that you're a rube and and an amateur who doesn't know how things work in the Real World. This is no different from a fifth-grade bully on the playground.
Here are five things a fearful, weenie-state bully will say to try to knock you down. If you won't give up your salary history and a recruiter can't believe you'd stand up to him, he might say "If you're going to play in the big leagues, you'd better know how things work. You have to give me the information I ask for." Invite the recruiter to take a flying leap at a rolling donut and hang up the phone. No one who uses intimidation as a communication strategy can possibly help you on your path.
Sometimes just being yourself can make people fearful, especially if they are fearful people to begin with!
I use the term "weenie" and the hotdog character in my drawings to illustrate a certain kind of behavior at work.